Once
upon a time, there was a Sage. One day when his disciples gathered
around him, he asked the question: “Why is it that when two people get
angry with one another, they scream instead of calmly talking to each
other?”
After a few moments, one of the disciples answered: “When
they are angry, they can not control their anger and are unable to calm
themselves.”
The
Sage was not satisfied with the first answer and so he asked again.
“Why do you have to scream when you are standing next to each other? Why
couldn’t you speak to each other with just your regular speaking
voices?”
His disciples pondered for a long moment in silence, but were unable to conjure up an explanation that satisfied the Sage.
Finally,
the Sage answered: “When two people are angry with each other, their
hearts no longer reach out to each other. Deep down in their heart, the
distance grows further away. Therefore, they believe the idea that if
they want to overcome or overpower the other person, the best way is to
scream and yell as loud as they can. The angrier the person, the bigger
the distance, and then finally, the loudest voice covers the empty
distance that is has created.  The
Sage Paused. Then continued.” When two people fall in love, they never
yell to each other when they talk. Why? Because their hearts begin to
get closer and their hearts become one beat and the distance grows
closer. Later when these two people fall deeply in love, language is no
longer a necessity. Only whispering is needed to bring them together,
and closer to the love. In the end, the look in their eyes for one
another can speak for it all…
The
Sage concluded: “When you argue on a subject, do not let your heart
slip away. Do not create the empty distance and let the anger take the
place of your heart. If you can not manage your anger, you will create
such a long distance and will not be able to find your way back home! |