Daily life can be made happier. It is a matter of choice. It is our attitude that makes us feel happy or unhappy. It is true, we meet all kinds of situations during the day, and some of them may not be conductive to happiness.
We can choose to keep thinking about the unhappy events, and we can
choose to refuse to think about them, and instead, relish the happy
moments. All of us constantly go through various situations and
circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our reactions
and feelings. If we let outer events influence our moods, we
become their slaves. We lose our freedom. We let our happiness be
determined by outer forces. On the other hand, we can free ourselves
from outer influences. We can choose to be happy, and we can do a lot to
add happiness to our lives. What is happiness? It is a feeling
of inner peace and satisfaction. It is usually experienced when there
are no worries, fears or obsessing thoughts, and this usually happens,
when we do something we love to do or when we get, win, gain or achieve
something that we value. It seems to be the outcome of positive events,
but it actually comes from the inside, triggered by outer events. For
most people happiness seems fleeting, because they let changing outer
circumstances affect it. One of the best ways to keep it, is by gaining
inner peace through daily meditation. As the mind becomes more peaceful,
it becomes easier to choose the happiness habit. Here are a few tips for increasing happiness in daily life: 1)
Endeavor to change the way you look at things. Always look at the
bright side. The mind may drag you to think about negativity and
difficulties. Don't let it. Look at the good and positive side of every
situation. 2) Think of solutions, not problems. 3) Listen to relaxing, uplifting music. 4) Watch funny comedies that make you laugh. 5) Each day, devote some time to reading a few pages of an inspiring book or article. 6) Watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, start thinking of pleasant things. 7) Always look at what you have done and not at what you haven't.
Sometimes you may begin the day with the desire to accomplish several
objectives. At the end of the day you might feel frustrated and unhappy,
because you haven't been able to do all of those things. Look at
what you have done, not at what you have not been able to do. You may
have accomplished a lot during the day, and yet you let yourself become
frustrated, because of some small things that you did not accomplish.
You have spent all day successfully carrying out many plans, and instead
of feeling happy and satisfied, you look at what was not accomplished
and feel unhappy. It is unfair toward yourself. 8) Each day do
something good for yourself. It can be something small, such buying a
book, eating something you love, watching you favorite program on TV,
going to a movie, or just having a stroll on the beach. 9) Each
day do at least one act to make others happy. This can be a kind word,
helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the crossroad to let
people cross, giving your seat in a bus to someone else, or giving a
small present to someone you love. The possibilities are infinite. When
you make someone happy, you become happy, and then people try to make
you happy. 10) Always expect happiness. 11) Do not envy people who are happy. On the contrary, be happy for their happiness. 12) Associate with happy people, and try to learn from them to be happy. Remember, happiness is contagious. 13)
Do your best to stay detached, when things do not proceed as intended
and desired. Detachment will help you stay calm and control your moods
and reactions. Detachment is not indifference. It is the acceptance of
the good and the bad and staying balanced. Detachment has much to do
with inner peace, and inner peace is conductive to happiness. 14) Smile more often. |