1. Focus on the "now,"
says Samu Kim Sunin, founder of the Buddhist Society for Compassionate
Wisdom, which has temples in Chicago, New York, Toronto, Mexico City
and Ann Arbor, Mich.
is key, he says. Sit in silence, repeat a short phrase in your head,
concentrate on breathing and think of yourself as part of nature.
happens (when you're done) is you are a calm, clear, genuine and
authentic person, and other people benefit from that," Kim says.
2. Pause before you act.
People are too prone to respond impulsively, Kim says, and end up
reacting in ways that are angry, sarcastic or judgmental rather than
patient, thoughtful and compassionate. As difficult as it might feel at
the time, stop for a moment and think about your response.
you do that, you will gain perspective and you won't fall victim to
ignorance," Kim says. You will be calmer, and you won't cause stress for
3. Find ways to do community service.
Helping others ultimately is a way to help yourself. You’ll reap the
mental and emotional benefits that come with helping someone, and that
person benefits as well.
This need not be a huge commitment, but find small ways to "do your best," Kim says.
“The world is an interrelated whole, and we have a collective responsibility to help because we are helping ourselves."
4. Reduce consumption, eat in moderation, be aware of what you use -- and why.
mindfully is a small but important step in the right direction," Kim
says. "Of course it's challenging, but it's very meaningful."
Buddhists are vegetarian on the 16th day of every month "as a way to
remember the sacrifices of living beings that sustain our life,"
according to the North American Shin Buddhist Association. Others
attempt to eat only foods that are in season.
5. Be content with what you have. Far too much of what people are worried about is tied to the future or stems from the past, Kim says.
you want to find peace of mind, he says, count your blessings and enjoy
the "now" rather than being dissatisfied and striving for something
else. That "something else" -- a job promotion, a larger house, the
latest gadget, a new spouse -- is unlikely to make you happy, he says.